Every once in a while I struggle with overwhelming emotions and cry. Lately I felt inadequate as a mom. My inability to contribute, assist, cuddle, or have a a normal conversation breaks my heart! I started watching videos on family relationships and parenting. For the most part they were very insightful but I couldn't find any advice that specifically helped me!
I looked for "How To" videos on parenting when you are physically handicapped in every way. I couldn't find any! So I did what any sneaky mom like me would do, I cheated! In the past when I have asked my children what I can do differently or how I can improve to be a better mom I always got the, "You're good mom." So this time I asked Jessa to help me write to other parents in a wheelchair. I asked her to tell me what advice she would give them.
I got my answer loud and clear!
1. Be patient. Your family won’t always understand what your saying or what’s going on so the best thing to do is not get frustrated but to be patient and understanding.
2. It’s okay to ask for help. I know that most parents and adults are used to providing for themselves and their family and a disability may limit them to doing that. They need to be able to allow others to help them when they can’t do a certain task. This is also a humbling experience.
3. Be happy. Many people with disabilities become distant and angry because of their disabilities but it’s important to be thankful for the people that are reaching out to you and care for you. Spending all the time angry at God can cause people to miss special moments with their family and friends. Instead they should be thankful for the moments they have with their family. Please continue to pray for me as I experience growing pains! The basic things that my children want from me haven't changed! Pray that I don't make life more complicated than God intended it to be!
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.
Larnelle Harris "I Choose Joy"